ʻOiai ke pāʻani nei nā keiki nā mea pāʻani a me nā pāʻani, ke aʻo nei nō hoʻi lākou. Ke pāʻani wale nei no ka leʻaleʻa he mea nui ʻole ia, akā i kekahi manawa, lana paha kou manaʻo i kapāʻani pāʻanihiki i kāu mau keiki ke pāʻani iā lākou ke aʻo iā lākou i kekahi mea pono. Maʻaneʻi, paipai mākou i nā pāʻani punahele a nā keiki 6. ʻAʻole hoihoi wale kēia mau pāʻani akā kōkua pū nō hoʻi i nā keiki e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i nā mākau pilikanaka a me nā mākau kamaʻilio ʻano.
1. nā nīnau na ʻoe e pane
ʻO kēia kahi pāʻani kahi e nīnau ai nā mākua i nā nīnau hypothhetical e pili ana i ka makahiki o kā lākou keiki, e ʻae ana i nā keiki e noʻonoʻo pehea e hana ai i nā hanana paʻakikī. No nā keiki liʻiliʻi, hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau iā lākou inā e moe lākou ma lalo o kekahi mau ʻano. No nā keiki e hele nei i ke kula, hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau he aha kāu e hana ai inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi hoa papa e hoʻomāinoino ʻia ana i ka lumi ʻaina a ʻaʻohe mākua a puni? He mea paʻakikī kēia mau nīnau no nā keiki a hiki ke kōkua iā lākou e hoʻomōhala i ka ʻike pono.
2. Nā pāʻani pāʻani
Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi i nā hana me kāu poʻe keiki. Pāʻani ʻoe i ke keiki, e ʻae ke keiki i ka hana a ka makua. Ke nānā mākou i nā pilikia ma o nā maka o haʻi, e ʻoi aku ko mākou minamina i kekahi i kekahi. ʻAe, ke kamaʻilio nei wau e pili ana i ke aloha. ʻAʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole e noʻonoʻo ai nā mākua iā ia mai ke kuanaʻike o ke keiki a hana i kekahi mea.
3. ʻO kahi pāʻani o ka hilinaʻi
He pāʻani maʻamau kēia no ka poʻe ʻōpio i ke kūkulu ʻana i kime. Ua hāʻule hope kekahi lālā, a kūkulu nā lālā ʻē aʻe o ka hui i kahi alahaka ma hope ona me nā kuʻe lima e kākoʻo iā ia. Kēiapāʻani pāʻani o wahoʻae iā ia e ʻike i nā mea āpau e pili ana, e pili mau ana ʻoe ma kona ʻaoʻao. E huli ʻo ia i kona kua iā ʻoe, pani i kona mau maka a hāʻule hope. E hopu ʻoe iā ia i ka manawa. Ma hope o ka pau ʻana o ka pāʻani, hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio maʻalahi iā ia e pili ana i ke koʻikoʻi o ka hilinaʻi ʻana iā haʻi.
4. Nā pāʻani dilemma
Inā holo ʻoe i loko o kekahi mea kūpono ʻole, hiki iā ʻoe ke pāʻani i nā pāʻani dilemma me kāu keiki e noʻonoʻo ai i nā kumu. Hiki i kēia nīnau maʻalahi ke kōkua i ke keiki e kūkulu i ke aloha. ʻO ka pane paha i ka nīnau, ʻaʻole paha i aʻo ʻia e ka makuahine o ke keiki iā ia e mahalo, a i ʻole ua hiki paha kekahi mea i ke keiki. Ke maopopo ʻole i kāu poʻe keiki, e hoʻohana i kapāʻani pāʻani ua pāʻani lākou me he mau laʻana e wehewehe hou aku.
5. He pāʻani nahesa
Ua pāʻani paha ʻoe i ka pāʻani nahesa? Hoʻokomo mākou i ka nahesa i ka pāʻani huna-a-ʻimi e aʻo i nā keiki i ka hana hui. I kēia maunā mea pāʻani o waho a me nā pāʻani, hele ka mea ʻimi e loaʻa nā huna huna ʻē aʻe. Ke loaʻa kahi huna, e hui ʻo ia me ka mea ʻimi e kōkua i ka ʻimi ʻana i nā huna ʻē aʻe. I kēlā me kēia manawa ke loaʻa ke kanaka, ulu ka nahesa kuko i hoʻokahi manawa.
6. ʻO ka pāʻani o ka hōʻike ʻana i ke ʻano
E hoʻokuʻu i kāu keiki e hana i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa, e hoʻohana ana i nā helehelena a i ʻole ka ʻōlelo o ke kino. Hāʻawi kēia pāʻani i nā keiki e hoʻomohala i ka ʻōlelo i ke ʻano manaʻo hou a ma ka manawa like e hoʻomōhala i ko lākou ʻike ponoʻī.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, i ka hoʻohui o kēia mau pāʻani, nā ʻano mea like ʻole o nā hāmeʻa aʻohe kuleana nui pū kekahi i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i ka mākau pilikanaka. Inā he mau nīnau kāu, ma ke ʻano he ʻoihana hana o kanā mea pāʻani aʻo maikaʻi loa, Welina e kāhea iā mā ou.
Ka manawa Post: Jul-21-2021