He nui nā mākua e kū i ka pilikia like ma ke kahua hoʻokahi. Uē kā lākou keiki a walaʻau i ka supermarket no akaʻa pāʻani pākī a i ʻole a puzzle dinosaur lāʻau. Inā ʻaʻole e mālama nā mākua i kā lākou makemake e kūʻai i kēia mau mea pāʻani, a laila e ikaika loa nā keiki a noho hoʻi i ka supermarket. I kēia manawa, ʻaʻole hiki i nā mākua ke kaohi i kā lākou keiki, no ka mea, ua hala lākou i ka manawa kūpono loa e aʻo ai i kā lākou keiki. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, ua maopopo i nā keiki hiki iā lākou ke hoʻokō i kā lākou makemake i ka wā a lākou e uē ai, no laila ʻo nā mea hoʻopunipuni a ko lākou mau mākua e hoʻohana ai, ʻaʻole lākou e loli.
No laila i ka manawa hea e hāʻawi ai nā mākua i ka naʻau psychological a haʻi iā lākou i ke ʻano o pono ke kūʻai ʻana i nā mea pāʻani?
ʻO ke kahua maikaʻi loa o ka Psychological Education
ʻAʻole ke aʻo makapō i ke keiki i ka noʻonoʻo maʻamau i ke ola a me ka ʻike e pono ai e aʻo ʻia, akā e waiho i ka naʻau i ke ʻano o ka hilinaʻi a me ka hilinaʻi. Mahalo paha kekahi mau mākua no ka hana nui ʻana a hoʻouna i kā lākou keiki i nā ʻoihana pili kula ʻoihana, akā ʻaʻole hiki i nā kumu ke aʻo maikaʻi i kā lākou keiki. ʻO kēia no ka mea ʻaʻole i hāʻawi nā mākua i ke aloha kūpono i kā lākou keiki.
Pono nā keiki e ʻike i nā loli ʻano ʻokoʻa i ko lākou ulu ʻana. Pono lākou e aʻo i ke ahonui mai ko lākou mau mākua. Ke ʻōlelo lākou i ko lākou mau pono, ʻaʻole hiki i nā mākua ke hoʻokō i nā mea a pau i manaʻo ʻia e nā keiki i mea e hoʻoponopono wikiwiki ai i ka pilikia. ʻO kahi laʻana, inā makemake lākou i kahi mea pāʻani like ma hope o kā lākou ʻona ʻanahe pākani lāʻau, E aʻo nā mākua e hōʻole iā ia. Ma muli o ka lawe ʻana o kahi hāmeʻa like ʻole i nā keiki me ka ʻoluʻolu a me ka hoʻokō ʻana, akā e hoʻohuna hewa wale lākou e hiki ke loaʻa maʻalahi nā mea āpau.
Manaʻo paha kekahi mau mākua he mea nui ʻole kēia? ʻOiai hiki iā lākou ke uku no nā pono o nā keiki, ʻaʻohe pono e hōʻole iā lākou. Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole i noʻonoʻo nā mākua inā hiki iā lākou ke māʻona i kā lākou keiki i nā hanana āpau ke lilo a lākou keiki i ʻōpio a makemake i nā mea pipiʻi hou aku. ʻO nā keiki i kēlā manawa ua loaʻa nā mākau āpau a me nā koho e hana me ko lākou mau mākua.
Ke ala kūpono e hōʻole ai i kahi keiki
Ke ʻike ka nui o nā keiki nā mea pāʻani a nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, manaʻo lākou he leʻaleʻa kēia mea pāʻani ma mua o kā lākou mea pāʻani ponoʻī. ʻO kēia no ko lākou makemake e mākaʻikaʻi. Inā lawe nā mākua i kā lākou keiki ihale kūʻai mea pāʻani, ʻoiai ka nā mea pāʻani pelekane liʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi maʻamau a lāʻau kaʻa uilae lilo i nā mea a nā keiki e makemake ai e loaʻa ka nui. ʻAʻole kēia no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i pāʻani me kēia mau mea pāʻani, akā no ka mea maʻamau lākou i ka lawe ʻana i nā mea e like me kā lākou. Ke maopopo i nā mākua "ʻaʻole e hāʻawi pio kā lākou keiki a hiki i kou hiki ʻana i kāu pahuhopu" mentality, ʻaʻole lākou e ʻōlelo koke.
I kekahi ʻaoʻao, ʻaʻole pono nā mākua e hoʻokuʻu i kā lākou keiki i ke alo i mua o ka lehulehu. I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, mai hōʻino a hōʻole hewahewa paha i kāu keiki i ka lehulehu. E alo i kāu mau keiki iā ʻoe wale nō, mai nānā iā lākou, i mea e pīhoihoi ai lākou a hana i kekahi ʻano noʻonoʻo ʻole.
Ka manawa Post: Jul-21-2021